Tomorrow is D-Day!

In this case the D is for diet, Raw and Living food diet actually.

It's been a while since I did this diet properly and it is definitely time.

I have stopped smoking again and I'm ready.

Tonight we take pictures and measurements (which will NOT be posted at this point!)

Watch this space for updates as I go along.


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How to be happy

Why are we often so unhappy? Is it because we aren't getting what we wanted?

Here is a great secret to life: The outcome is NOT UP TO US!

All we have control over in this life is the effort we put in and the attitude we present to the world. The rest is simply not in our control yet we get so disappointed when stuff does not go according to our plans.

Life is what happens whilst we are planning something else. Life ALWAYS works out, just not always our way and if we accept and enjoy what we do get, we will realise we ARE actually already happy.

Happiness is NOT an outcome, it's a realisation that we are actually happy. We put things in the wrong order. When we realise we ARE happy, we will BE happy.

People, places and things can only satisfy us for a short while until we get bored of them and then we believe that when we get the next thing we will be happy. I suppose it's born out of our upbringing and an advertising and marketing based life. We are taught to want what we don't have and live in disappointment because of this.

Happiness does not come from anywhere outside of ourselves. Happiness is contentment with what we already have and in appreciating that.
There will always be something and someone better and if our happiness depends on that, we will NEVER be truly be happy.

This does not mean one should not have ambition or strive towards a better future. We should however derive pleasure in the moment, trusting that the present will constantly change into the future and know that the future will be as perfect as the present is.

Mystics and others teach us that living in the moment is all that there really is, yet so few of us live there. We either spend our lives regretting the past or dreading the future yet that is NOT where we are.
We have no ability to change the past, no way of defining the future but we CAN savour the present and do the right things now. When we have a GOOD present, we end up with a good past and a confident future.

We can decide to be happy NOW and put in the effort to BE the best person we can NOW. We all make mistakes and that is OK, providing we learn and grow from them. If we keep making the same mistakes unconsciously then we are doomed to keep making the same mistakes. The saying goes: If we do not change, we stay the same! Everything in life changes and so should we... Consciously!


We all fear change and dread change and yet if things stay the same, we get bored and unhappy. Embrace change, accept it as a fact and we can decide what changes we can make to ourselves to best present to the world who we are. This requires introspection to determine who we really are. We are all constructs instead of being who we are. Trust in the understanding that becoming who we
really are, is the most honest way to live. Honesty is so important especially self-honesty.

Why are we so scared to show the world who we really are and what WE really think? Instead we present to the world an image of what we think others want to see. We express opinions that others express instead of thinking things through for ourselves and deciding what is true to us. Just because someone said or wrote something does not mean it's true for us. Because our parents say something or because it's written somewhere does not make it right. If we don't challenge everything and come to terms with how we feel, we are nothing but parrots.

We are not perfect and we all make mistakes but it's through those mistakes we realise what does not represent us and we can change and grow.

Realise you already have enough to be Happy Now!

Little Light of Love - The Fifth Element Soundtrack

From a little light of love
I was born and in my cry, my cry
Was a little light of love
For the honoring of life
And the pharons of my soul
Is this light of love
Precious little light of love

There's a candle burning on
In the breezy shades of night
I keep up my faith and underset my hope
To call the realm of light

A treasure
Your shiver
In the middle of the shady desert
Brings on a field of light
In a light of love
Fairy light of love

Only one religion
Will lead us to the love we aim for
Over the dark illusions
Of the warring nations

And when the figure leads to power
The destruction glorified higher
And when the war is nearly over
How come the leader's held in highest honors

Would you die
For their lie
The greedy hunting cry

You rely
On your light
Little loving light

A little light of sole religion
Well a little light of love
A little light of soaring freedom
Just a little light of love
A little light of sole religion
Take this little light of Love

A little light of love and freedom
Take me
A little light of soul religion
A little light of love and freedom

It's not up to you - Björk Lyrics

I wake up
And the day feels
Broken
I tilt my head
I'm trying to get an angle
'Cause the evening
I've always longed for
It could still happen

How do I master
The perfect day
Six glasses of water
Seven phonecalls

If you leave it alone
It might just happen
Anyway

It's not up to you
Oh it never really was
It's not up to you
Oh it never really was
It's not up to you
Well it never really was
It's not up to you

If you wake up
And the day feels
Ah broken
Just lean into the crack
(Just lean into the crack)
And it will tremble
Ever so nicely
Notice
How it sparkles
Down there

I can decide
What I give
But it's not up to me
What I get given
Unthinkable surprises
About to happen
But what they are

It's not up to you
Well it never really was
It's not up to you
Oh it never really was
It's not up to you
Oh it never really was
It's not up to you
Oh, me, share
It's not up to you
It's not up to you
Oh, it never really was
It's not up to you
Well, it never really was
It's not up to you
It's not up to you
It's not up to you
It's not up to you

There's too much
Clinging
To peak
There's too much
Pressure

Some points on Love and Friendship

This last few weeks I am finding myself having the same conversations over and over again so I thought I’d put my thoughts and opinions into words, in point form and put it out there.
These are my thoughts and opinions, use them, don’t use them.

Call me old, call me experienced, call me anything you like but the fact is I have been around and I’ve seen and done a lot, some things I’m proud, of some things I’m not.

I look at everyone I know and I often have friends and acquaintances coming to be with their fears and troubles with regards to love and relationships. With that in mind this is the knowledge I have gained on these matters. It also applies to many friendships:

1. You are NOT in love with a person you just met. You are infatuated. This stage can last months. Love comes later. Many people end a relationship at this time not realizing that love comes after infatuation and often even after a period of apparent boredom has set in.
2. Loving someone belongs to you. It does not give you any rights over that person. Your expectations over them will only cause distance.
3. Love is neither controlling nor manipulative. You cannot make someone love you nor make you love them. Either they love you the same way in turn or they don’t. Accept that.
4. When you try to control someone you begin to lose them. If they are going to cheat on you, they will. There is nothing you can do to stop that. By trying to control another person you force them to lie to you in order for them to live their lives.
5. Trust comes from trust. You will not trust someone until you allow them the space to prove that trust.
6. We often don’t trust others because we know that in the same situations we might not be trustworthy ourselves. They are not you. Allow them to show you who they are.
7. Expectations ruin the reward of appreciating what is.
8. True Love requires absolute honesty. Be willing to express how you feel and to hear how the other person feels and accept that. It is how you or they feel. I always say that if your best friend cannot tell you that your breath stinks, who can? When you lie to someone you are NOT protecting them, you are protecting yourself.
9. Don’t EVER give up your friends and friendships at the request of another and NEVER request or expect that from them. Friends often last longer than relationships and are the constant in your lives.
10. Respect your partners right to privacy and space. If you cage someone they will want to escape.
11. It is only very seldom that you will find someone who loves you as much as you love them. Love is special and true love only comes around a few times in your life. Appreciate it when it happens.
12. You are not someone’s other or better half. You are a whole person and do not require another to complete you. A relationship will best survive when it has two whole people living their separate lives together.
13. Your partner as well as you yourself deserves space and room to live. Give them that space and take that space for yourself. Being apart is not a sign of distance.
14. Until you love yourself others will find it difficult to love you. You are a lovable person and often the ONLY one not to see that is you yourself. People are attracted to people that love and respect themselves. Spend sometime in introspection and learn that you are perfect as you are providing you have learned who you really are.
15. Do not subject yourself to the morality of others. You know what is right for you and what makes you respect yourself. Who you truly are, is ultimately who you should be. Don’t try to be someone or something else.
16. You have the right to find true love. Rather leave a relationship that is not fulfilling you than stay in a compromise. While you are compromising true love could pass you by.
17. We all find true love at some point. Do NOT feel anxious if it hasn’t come to you yet. It will. Often love comes once we stop searching for it.
18. Stop looking at every person you meet asking yourself, “Could this be the one?” By doing that you already begin manipulating situations and thus change the dynamics.
19. Do not place expectations on others as you just doom the relationship to failure. We often cannot live up to our own expectations. Why should others then be forced to live up to ours? Accept a person as they are.
20. If who they are, is not who you want, trying to change them is not an option. They will end up resenting your attempts. Rather move on.
21. Do not base your relationship and behaviour on your parents.
22. Do not take your fears from previous relationships into your new ones. Let them go. This is not the same person. Your fears make you start to try and control.
23. If a person wants to be with you they will. If they don’t, let them go. Holding onto someone who does not love you is pointless. You will find someone who loves you equally.
24. Never allow your partner to make you feel less. That is not the way you deserve to be treated. You deserve to be treated with respect and it is your obligation to treat others with respect.
25. You have not right to manipulate another to do things your way. What is the point? They will only resent it. Tell them how their actions make you feel. Never allow another to manipulate you. You are worth more.
26. Rules are made to be broken. Don’t make them. If you have to make rules you are trying to control or manipulate.
27. In any situation tell the other person how you feel about a situation. It is up to them to respond. Sulking and bitching etc is just an attempt to control and manipulate.
28. Don’t react, observe, think, pause and then act. We are not animals that can only react.
29. A gay relationship is not a copy of a straight relationship. Two people of the same sex have different needs that a heterosexual relationship.
30. If you are in a relationship where you are not getting sex, that is called a friendship. Down grade it to that! Anything else is a compromise. Why compromise. You and they deserve more.
31. Never accept abuse in any form. You are worth more than that and you are NOT lucky to have them. Someone else will love and respect you.

More to follow!